Hey You, You’re Not Invincible

When I look at the past few years of my life — basically for as long as I can remember — I have been running, skipping down the path of life and gladly taking all the gifts that it’s offered me. I soaked up experiences and developed a hunger for life that grew stronger and stronger the more I saw, did, asked and learned.

In a way, I have always known what I wanted, at least for the time being, and I went after what I desired with a determination that others oftentimes admired. Of course I worked for what I wanted but nothing ever seemed hard, let alone impossible. The more challenging a dream got the more fun I had chasing it.

I was thirteen when I first asked my Mum to move to a different country, fourteen when I went on a student exchange to Australia. I developed a sense of wanderlust that soon grew unfathomable. After the idea of a social gap year in Costa Rica didn’t work out the way I had planned and pictured in my head, I made new plans and moved to Cape Town, where I lived and worked in a hostel and got to know myself and yet another side of this world. When it was time to enrol in a university I hesitated, once again asking myself what I really wanted. Eventually, I got the major I had set my eyes on and into the school — the only one I applied to — that I saw myself fitting into. I got the spot in the exchange program and the scholarship to go with it. For me, it was everything or nothing, and I learned and grew; discovered and questioned; experienced and took every opportunity that I could grasp.

It seems like the longer and faster you ride a bike the easier it gets to sustain the speed that you have gained over time. I have been riding that bike for a long time, and to be honest, I might not have realised just how easy it had become. I was dancing, flying, spinning, all the while with my heart wide open. The thing is, sometimes there’s a bump in the road that you might not have expected; a bump that you haven’t seen coming.

I was about to take a bus back to Bangkok when my boyfriend called. One of the puppies at the orphanage we had volunteered at in Cambodia got rabies, he told me. “Are you sure?” I asked after a silence that lasted too long. “Yes,” he said. “It had every single sign.” Every single sign, it took a while for that to sink in. The foam in front of its tiny mouth that was only starting to grow teeth. The aggression. The disorientation. The paralysis and the pain. The symptoms were obvious, there was no room for speculations. I was scared. Mostly for Zach and the 27 children he was still with. At the time I didn’t worry about myself.

The bus ride to Bangkok was hell. I got stomach cramps and diarrhoea, the bus broke down and we got stuck at the border. When we arrived in Bangkok twenty-eight hours later I was exhausted and weak. Later, I told myself, I would be laughing at this trip.

It wasn’t until I was on the plane the next day, somewhere between Asia and home, that I thought about the different symptoms again. I had been biting my lips until they were raw, my stomach hurt, my head ached and the lights seemed too bright. Zach had sent me a screenshot with symptoms of rabies. Somewhere on my phone was the screenshot. I had left the orphanage a week ago. How long had the dogs been sick already?
With shaking fingers I fiddled through my bag, grabbing the phone and dropping it again a few times before finally getting hold of it. I became desperate the longer my fingers swiped over the screen — back, back, back to when we had first talked about it. Then everything stopped. The plane might have stopped midair, for all I knew the world might have stopped spinning.
“The initial symptoms of rabies are often vague,” it said. And: “It can be easy to mistake them for other, less serious types of infection.” There was a list: Fever. Headache. Feeling generally unwell. Feeling scared and anxious. My nails dug into my palms, leaving red marks inside clenched fists. I squeezed my eyes shut and leaned back in the seat while I felt my heart racing in my chest. I had not been bitten. I had not been bitten. I had not been bitten. — I had mosquito bites. I had scratched them open. I had open mosquito bites all over my legs.

The worst part was that there was nothing I could do, no one I could talk to. We wouldn’t land for another five hours, I was literally stuck on the plane; thought I was going insane.

At London Heathrow I found a bathroom. The girl who stared back at me from the full-length mirror looked tired, red-eyed and scared. Skinnier than I remembered her. Frail. I couldn’t recognise myself.

My connecting flight to Hamburg wasn’t until the next morning. I found a computer and sat down, googled and read until tears blurred my vision and I had to stop. People walked past me but I couldn’t see their faces. I would go to the hospital as soon as I got back, but should I really be —, should I really have —, there would be nothing anyone could do. I would die. The truth of this realisation was so painful and real that minutes passed before I moved. I begged my mind to stop thinking but knew that it would never let me. How could I think of anything else? How could I not be scared? How could I not be angry? How could I have been so reckless? So stupid?

In the end, all I could think was that I didn’t want to die.

Lying across a row of chairs inside the airport, I fell asleep and woke again, terrified and dizzy. It was as if my thoughts themselves had turned into viruses that started to eat me up from within. One time I woke up because I was screaming. I was no longer at the airport. I was at a hospital. My back arched, hands gripping the cool bed frame, knuckles white and prominent, I was screaming for a doctor, screaming for him to take away the pain.

I didn’t want to die. I wanted to go home. I wanted to get old and have children. Please, please, please, I repeated over and over, please let us all be okay. It was all I could think about. Zach. Mariana. Luka. Cook. The children. Please let us be okay.

It’s crazy what the prospect of death does to you; how pointless and irrelevant everything that you’ve done, thought and accomplished up until then becomes all of the sudden. How willingly you would trade it all; how willingly you would give it all back if it meant that you could live.

I went to the hospital the day that I got home. My Mum was with me, sitting next to me in a waiting room full of people. I scanned the square room with its white walls and tried to picture the thoughts behind the faces I didn’t dare to look at, wondering why they had come here on this sunny and warm autumn day in Hamburg.
In the car, on the way home, I cried. The day after, I took my dog for a walk along the river near the house. Colourful leaves started to cover the ground but I still felt like I barely even saw them. On the way back, I stumbled over chestnuts. I picked them up and smiled while tears filled my eyes once more.

Twelve days have passed since the doctor has shaken my hand and told me that I was safe, that I was healthy, that I was okay. I haven’t been skipping since. I haven’t been running. I haven’t laughed that carefree laugh that you might have gotten so used to over the years that you have known me. I know that I was so lucky. But I was also so stupid. And I still get angry at myself for what happened.

I hope that I can be myself again soon. For now though, I am taking baby steps. I am far from dancing and spinning. I’m learning how to walk again.

6 comments Add yours
    1. Thank you! Yes, as far as I know everyone is okay. I’m really sorry you made a similar experience and glad that it wasn’t Malaria! Thank you for sharing your story as well. I really hope less people will have to go through the same thing. Are you feeling better by now?

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